It happens to just about every kid at some point – back talking. The sassy and negative replies can sneak up on a parent, but you can stop the back talking with these 4 techniques to end rude responses.
4 Techniques Used to End Rude Responses with Kids
- Praise The Positive – It’s easy to focus on the negative and forget to praise your family for positive behaviors. It’s not uncommon for parents to be quick to jump into action when a negative situation arises, so support the good things with understated praise. You don’t have to throw glitter in the air and give out stickers, but a simple smile and show of appreciation of the desired responses will be an amazing tactic.
- Disarm Negative Responses With Kindness – The notion of killing with kindness began in an English proverb but Shakespeare made the saying famous in ‘Taming of the Shrew.’ The conception stuck around and for good reason. Combating negative back talking with more negativity can actually make the problem worse. The rude response actually becomes a power struggle and by handing the back talking with equally sassy retorts you sink to their level and it becomes acceptable behavior. Instead, pull your child aside and inform them that a rude response is not a good way to handle the situation and ask if something is wrong. Often, the heart-to-heart eliminates tension and allows you to constructively correct the behavior.
- Set the Rules and Keep Your Cool – Once the back talking begins, immediately address the issue with a simple explanation of why the rude responses won’t be tolerated. Next, give your child a way to express their anger or frustration with an example of how you need to them handle their feelings. Finally, remember to keep your cool. You might want to snap back with a retort of your own, but avoid fighting fire with fire.
- No Second Chances – Generally speaking, parents tend to hand out a warning before dolling out punishment. It’s attempting to keep things fair while letting your child vent, however back talking can be a different beast to handle. Avoid responses that entail, “If you do that one more time…” Immediately work to correct the negativity with a consequence. It doesn’t have to be severe punishment. Simply At first, the technique may seem to spark more issues, but as you continue holding your child accountable they will understand the process.
Don’t give up!
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Raising a family is never easy, but it’s always incredibly rewarding. Do you have any tips on how to stop back talking?