Manners for Kids – 21 Tips and Giveaway!

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Monica over at The Etiquette Factory has graciously shared her Manners for Kids – 21 Tips with us.

These tips are suggestions that will help you train your child in proper etiquette and manners.  Try working on one at a time, before moving on to the next.

21 Manners for Kids Tips

  1. Practice proper introductions by allowing children to make up whatever name they want and introduce themselves to each other.  When they score a perfect “10” with eye contact, a smile, a strong voice and a firm handshake, they win the prize.
  2. It is polite for children to address adults by their last names with proper titles, unless the adult has asked them to call them something else and the child has received permission from their own parents.
  3. Play musical chairs with your children practicing sitting down and placing their napkin properly in their lap (folded in half across legs) and then back to chair as they stand up from chair.
  4. Teaching children what “tact” means is very important.  Have children draw a picture of one their favorite activities and then have children stand and present their picture to other children.  Other children have to find one thing positive and sincere to say about each picture.  This teaches them the meaning of “tact” which is finding something positive to say regardless of the situation.
  5. It’s polite to teach children to “stand” for adults and ladies.  Next time you call children to the table, have them remain standing behind their chairs until host and all ladies have taken their seat.  This teaches respect and helps build love between children and families.
  6. Teaching children to accept the word “No” graciously is an important life skill.  Help them to understand what to say and what is expected when they hear you, a parent or a teacher tell them, “No.”  For example, “Yes Mom.  Thank you for considering it.”
  7. Regardless of how much we like something, it is polite to only take a single portion (fist size) of any item being served.
  8. To teach children what it feels like to have proper posture at the table, take a long scarf and tie around children attaching them to the chair :).  Yes, they are tied to the chair with their backs straight.  This is sometimes a real “eye opener” as to exactly how it feels to have proper posture at the table.  Get the kids excited to try this experiment.
  9. Play the “telephone game” (whispering in one child’s ear a phrase, and then asking them to pass along the phrase until it reaches the last person who announces what the phrase it) in order for the children to understand why we don’t spread gossip and unkind stories about others as the stories change and the truth is lost as stories are passed along.
  10. Demonstrate for children the difference in “dabbing” our mouths and wiping our mouths.  We shouldn’t eat messy enough that wiping or washing is required 🙂
  11. The best way to help children learn the proper way to cut food is to practice on sandwich bread.  It cuts easily and they can practice and practice without a lot of expense.
  12. It’s polite to learn how to take turns talking.  Have two children stand and tell about their favorite vacation.  “Time” them giving them 3 minutes maximum to tell their story.  Help them to see why it’s polite to take turns but to also learn to estimate time better so they are not “conversation hoggers.”
  13. It is never polite to ever announce at the dinner table our “dislikes”.  The only polite way to decline something we don’t care for is to say, “No thank you.”
  14. It’s our job to introduce our friends whom do not know each other to one another.  Have your children practice introducing each other to others.  Once again, using “made up” names just makes it more fun.
  15. Learning how to make a sincere apology is a wonderful skill.  Have children take turns accidentally taking each others’ seat, or tearing up a toy, or running into them and then help them to apologize sincerely, which means; not making excuses, saying “I’m sorry”, committing to trying not to repeat the mistake and keeping our word.
  16. Teaching are children the rules of borrowing is the best way to help them learn to love sharing.  The most important thing to remember when borrowing from another is to commit to when we will return the item.  For example, “Thank you Kristi for allowing me to borrow your movie.  I will return it on Monday.”
  17. Help your child identify a few things they own that it is OK not to share.  Everyone has special items that were given to them by a friend or simply very expensive that it is perfectly polite to say, “I’m sorry but that is one thing I do not share because it is so special to me.”  This helps children feel more comfortable sharing the other things that were not identified.
  18. Help your children set the table for a 4-5 course meal at least once per week.  It’s ok to use plastic utensils.  Practicing is the only way that your child will be able to feel comfortable when they find themselves in this situation.  Confidence is key.
  19. Encourage our children to respect those they are with by keeping our cell phones turned “off” when spending time with our children, especially at the dinner table.
  20. Have children list all the ways that someone can be dishonest, for example: telling a lie, leaving out important details, exaggerating, taking credit for something we didn’t do, not informing someone when they made a mistake like giving back too much change, hiding information, etc.  Ladies and gentlemen are honest in all things.
  21. Teaching your children to respect other people’s property, possessions, etc. is very important.  Have your child clean their room.  Then, secretly go in and make a small mess in their room.  Bring them in and allow them to react.  Ask them questions like: “How do you feel about that?  Why would someone make a mess in your room after you had worked so hard to clean it?  What does this action tell you the person was feeling towards your time and effort?  AFter this important discussion, tell your child the truth and why you did it.  Of course clean up the mess but help your child to understand that this is how others feel when we go into their space and are careless with their things, or their space or their time.

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Comments

  1. Graciousness

  2. We need to work on table manners! And speaking up when spoken to.

  3. Tracey M. says:

    The etiquette skill that we need to focus on is table manners. However, we are dealing with a lot of interruptions lately and reteaching or training my daughter how to respond to the word “no.” I would love to win this giveaway! I grew up in a home without any manners whatsoever and could use some guidance from Monica on how to train her properly.

  4. We have to work on looking people in the eye. My son has a speech disorder and looks at me to translate rather than the person to whom he is speaking.

  5. Kayla Rice says:

    We are working on many but I think Number one is table manners 🙂

  6. So many skills! My kids just need to learn that all the skills they regularly apply with OTHERS need to be applied to EACH OTHER!

  7. Calm & kind attitudes are constantly reminded.

  8. Jennifer C says:

    We need to work on introducing ourselves properly. Thanks!

  9. Jennifer says:

    respecting the property of others!

  10. Simple Please, Thank you, You’re welcome.

  11. Jennifer M says:

    We need to work on introductions.

  12. Gabreial W. says:

    Serving Others.

  13. kindness

  14. Nancy Clark says:

    respect for one another and others property

  15. Stopping the interruptions

  16. We need to practice inside voices. Alot:)

  17. Jennie T says:

    love to win we are working on manners and honesty

  18. Sara Wurster says:

    Manners is something every child needs. We have been working on table manners and how to be polite when meeting or introducing yourself to people. <3

  19. Using the magic words consistently.

  20. Table manners!

  21. Jennifer Kearns says:

    Tact….. definitely tact

  22. My children need urgent attention in the whining and complaining department! In fact I plan on taking a week long break to work on behavior before we start this next school year!

  23. Respecting other peoples’ property is something we definitely need to work on..

  24. Respecting others and their property.

  25. We need to work on interrupting and accepting ‘no’ for an answer.

  26. Veronica says:

    Taking turns speaking is a big one for my kids.

  27. Veronica says:

    Cleaning and keeping their rooms clean

  28. Kristi J. says:

    I really need to work on ‘tact’ in making sure they say at least one positive thing to each other. I would love for them to continue to build each other up and encourage each other in our family.

  29. Proper posture at the table and some “yes mamas” would be nice. 🙂

  30. Brooke Z says:

    Kindness & sharing would be great!

  31. Lynn Prucha says:

    We need to work on many things, but first would be respect for property!!

  32. Table manners

  33. I like this list. Number 15 is a good reminder: making a sincere apology. My kids could use some work on that.

  34. Being gracious with younger children that want to play with them.

  35. I am noticing in my daughter’s scout troop they are reaching an age when they think they can do whatever they want, just say, “Sorry” and all is forgiven. I would like them to learn to not intentionally be mean and to be sincere when they apologize.

  36. Most of my kids are older, but there’s still a lot on those 21 tips they could use to work on! Love that the giveway includes materials for older kids!

  37. Beverly says:

    Tact….sarcasm is a form of rudeness!

  38. Yikes. All of them. Tact would definately be a good one.

  39. Crystal says:

    All of them but to start with table manners.

  40. Jennifer says:

    We need to work on table manners.

  41. We need to work on looking people in the eye when speaking or listening to them!!! So hard to get through to the kids on this one!!!

  42. We need to work on taking turns speaking and listening.

  43. tact, waiting before talking ( not interupting) speaking more confidently while meeting new people

  44. Rollalyn says:

    Table manners and not interrupting

  45. Kathryn M. says:

    Table manners! I would like it to stick with the kids (and hubby). 🙂

  46. Definitely better table manners.

  47. Karleen Mauldin says:

    Sincere apologies! Those seem to be hard for my boys!

  48. Speaking with adults or new people they meet.

  49. Kimberly M. says:

    We really need help with table manners and introductions!

  50. Sharing

  51. Michelle says:

    Truly this is embarrassing, but learning what good manners are myself first will go far to being able to teach them to my children.

  52. Michelle M says:

    We need to work on respect for others and their personal space.

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